Today I brought Baby Love in for her normally scheduled visit with bio parents. When I waked in, they walked out (did not see me). I saw my social worker and asked "what is going on?!" She mouthed "they signed."
WHAT???
I was blindsided. I know dad has talked about it...or I should say has threatened it. I had no idea mom was on the cusp as well. It may not be until December that everything goes through (not quite sure why...waiting on a court date??) but if we get through the next 30 days, we will be well on our way to a second adoption.
Mom and Dad were very uncooperative, refusing to even provide pictures of themselves or BL's half-sibs for BL in the future. It breaks my heart for her. All I can do is look at my sweet sweet girl and love her and pray over her.
I remember the day Augie's parent's signed. It was as if he was a little more mine that day. We were prepared for the long transition into becoming BL's parents. Suddenly...she is much closer to being ours. I called Paul and said "we have to start thinking of a name!"
This case is so tough. How will I explain to her why Augie has visits with his bios while she does not? How will I fill this void in her life? In the words of a friend...I am going to begin to pray out the spirit of rejection.
Given the circumstances and the parents attitudes...I just keep thinking...how incredibly miraculous it is that she is here. I have done my share of sidewalk counseling and her parents could have very easily made the choice to abort her. For the fact they choose life, I will be eternally grateful. I pray for them and I pray that somehow they realize that they just did an amazing thing.
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"I am going to begin to pray out the spirit of rejection." I will join you. God Bless!
I am still speechless...teary eyed, and in love with the little girl with the big, wide eyes, and beautiful smile......i will pray for her too, as i do for my other grandchildren every day......i am in awe of God's Power in making miracles happen in you and your husband's lives.....love you lots....mimi
Very happy for you and you will be in our prayers.
Wow - amazing. But, you will be more than enough for her! God is so full of blessings!
What great news for your family and I'll be praying for all of you and for the birth family. Maybe in time they will change and be willing to give photos etc. Our birth mom wrote an amazing letter over a year after our adoption was finalized. She needed the time to process/grieve etc. I remember the day the case worker came by our house unannounced as I worried about dirty dishes or toddlers she told me the amazing news that our birth father was going to sign too after adamantly refusing for months and just before a much rescheduled TPR hearing. Our daughter's birthmom was TPR'd right after that and I remember the 30 day wait after that even though she had said she wouldn't fight it.
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